My husband and I are proof that soulmates are a reflection of you. They are the exact opposite, mirror image of everything you are and hope to be.
We are completely different people, different shapes of a puzzle who fit together seamlessly.
Like puzzle pieces, depending on what side of us you get we challenge, confuse and bewilder each other in the most complex (and not so complex) ways.
Here are our 10 truths that prove opposites attract:
- He brushes his teeth with warm (hot) water and I prefer cold. I have been shocked on several occasions running my brush under the tap while he is already brushing to be met with a mouthful of warm toothpaste… gross
- He doesn’t mind wearing odd socks – once he ended up with two odd socks after folding the washing, I watched in horror as he took these two completely different socks and folded them together to make a pair.
- He is a mathematic wizard. I often fire complex equations his way (like 34982 + 4627) and will get the correct answer before I have even loaded the calculator on my phone. I am hopeless at basic sums (like 23 + 45???)
- He will eat all the ‘healthy’ stuff on his plate first and then proceed to eat the rest ‘more tasty stuff’. I don’t know what I bother trying to balance the flavour of a meal to have him not even eat it together, just one element at a time.
- He is not very patient. I like to write and colour in. He does not have the patience to do these things. We are still working on finishing a 1000 piece puzzle I had made with a wedding photo of us… 5 years ago.
- He likes soggy stuff like melted ice-cream, and undercooked toast; I call it warm bread, because toast should be a different colour to what you started with when you put it in the toaster! I like my ice-cream hard so I can bite into it.
- He doesn’t sort his washing. Well he does now, because I explained how it all works. Although I still catch a load with undies and tea-towels together every once in a while.
- I am a planner. I like to write lists and hash out our finances on paper, he likes to keep it all in his brain and deal as it comes.
- I like tart and bitter, he likes sweet and milky. It’s a running joke with us that whenever we go for coffee I will order an espresso and he will order a cappuccino. The waiter will always set down the mugs in the wrong place, thinking that Alan is the one with the ‘more manly’ coffee.
- He’s an opener, I am a finisher. If we have 3 different types of jam for example, he will open every jar to taste them. I will finish one at a time.
You probably read through that thinking I have OCD and my husband must have a tough job keeping me happy.
I just see it as proof that opposites attract, big time.
The thing is, that all these little things annoy the crap outta me, and I know Alan has his pet peeves that I irritate as well.
But you know what? I wouldn’t have him any other way.
His little ‘quirks’ remind me to calm down and let go a little. And my somewhat uptightness reminds him to pull himself up on laziness as well.
Is your husband or partner your mirror image? What things do you both disagree on that make you question everything?
Let me know in the comments below!
Also, if your partner seems to do things JUST to annoy you, then I have a book you need to get your hands on!
I recommend you read Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives – it helped me understand a lot about myself, my husband and how we form habits differently. Including the fact that I am an opener and he is a closer, polar opposites!
This book by Gretchen Rubin is a life-changer. Her immaculately researched theories and concepts are a serious eye-opener. I myself have ready this book cover to cover 3 times now, and each time I want to incorporate a new good habit into my life (or eliminate a bad one!).
It also allowed me to appreciate the way that different people in my life operate in their day to day decision making. And partly what I attribute my
acceptance love of my husbands quirky ways.